The thing about dating in your 30s is …
You come across a lot of people that are getting divorced, or already divorced and/or have kids.
It is kind of a strange phenomenon for me meeting guys in their 30s, as I have spent the better part of the last four years exclusively dating men in their 20s. I am use to meeting guys who have had a serious relationship or two but none of them have married anyone or really even lived with girlfriends. Now – especially since starting online dating - I keep coming across men who are divorced and have kids. It is taking some adjustment in this little brain of mine.
The other thing I am finding in the online world is it is harder to find and land younger guys – although I am consciously trying to date people my own age right now – because younger men now know my age from my profile so they aren’t really looking at me as an option. At least that is my perception. When I meet someone in really life we can hit it off, have a good time chat, flirt, whatever and our actual age might never get discussed but here, on the internet it is right there in front of you for all to see. It makes it a bit different, awkward in a way. Maybe I just projecting, as I ignore any man over 38 that tries to send me a message. Is that wrong?
This whole post is the long way of saying I am meeting someone next week. Or I have met someone online and we are going to meet up this week. He has a kid, which is fine, but a bit odd. I am not sure if I would call it a date yet but I am looking forward to trying this “dating” thing again. Wish me luck. I might need it.
More on this story and much more soon.
xo
The Single Girl
3 comments:
Curious. I'm using the same site, and have been sent only one match who was divorced or had kids, and while most people I'm sent are around my age, a serious number of them are five years younger. From my experience, I thought it was usual that women would try to find people around their own age while men would routinely check the 18-65 boxes ;-)
Maybe there's some way we're answering all the standard questions that's generating totally opposite results. Or maybe it's a regional variant in membership demographics. Let's commission a study!
SFG it isn't that I am getting matched up with the older guys by the site, it is that they are flocking towards me. Actually the site seems to have no rhyme or reason when it comes to age, or match really. They sent me a match that was something like 40% match and 49% enemy. WTF.
I think we should commission a study!
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