Confirmation of what we already knew

For a long time I have joked about my fear of commitment with friends, family, ex boyfriends, current boy toys, but I haven’t ever really thought about what makes me a commitment phobe or what the signs are. Last weekend I was on MSN.com looking at my horoscope and I came across an article that was all about the fact that women are as unable to commit as men (probably related to the Valentine holiday that had just past). I have to say the list was very interesting to me. I didn’t think to download or bookmark the entire article but I did keep the list of signs that might make you (or me) afraid of commitment.

Take a look …

• Once the excitement of first romance has passed, you get bored in most of your relationships.
• You have a habit of dating unavailable men (married, involved with someone else, geographically or emotionally distant, etc.).
• You have a long and elaborate list of requirements for your ideal mate.
• You consider your married friends’ relationships boring and feel that many of them have settled for too little.
• You cultivate larger networks of friends and acquaintances at the expense of romantic relationships.
• You date more than one man at a time to prevent becoming dependent.
• You have a difficult time getting over past boyfriends.

Yeah … so almost of that is true for me except for the married friends one. None of you are boring (even though some of you think you are) and none of you have settled. And I don’t think my list is that long for the ideal mate, but otherwise I would say it is spot on.

What does this mean for the single girl? Very little, I just thought it was kind of interesting, especially the last bullet. I always thought that my very slow recovery was proof that I wasn’t a commitment phobe … apparently I was wrong. Sadly I didn’t bookmark the article and now I can't fix my commitment phobic ways. Oh well, guess I will have to settle for a going to another work event tonight and then to the bar to troll for unavailable men.

Kidding, kidding.

Happy Friday